Collaborative divorce is not for everyone or every situation. It requires that those involved be committed to working with and not against the other party in order to achieve results. Those persons who are able to accept the separation, willing to learn or manage their emotions, interested in the well-being of the other side and committed to the process are good candidates for collaborative. Those persons involved in collaborative divorce should be able to take the long term view and be thinking of the future and the maintenance of a relationship with the other side.
Those involved in collaborative law must understand that although the intent of collaborative law is to be successful in achieving an agreement, it may not be successful. In this vein, it must be remembered that if collaborative law fails, there will be the added time and expense of hiring a new lawyer and taking the matter to court.